In His Time

In His Time

I am not sure about you but I often ask and have been asked where is God in all of this. It is even more frustrated when people used to tell me “In His Time”. Do you get those too?

Some of us even question the existence of God or even this higher power – universe, the force, and whatever name you give to this great invisible being.

Everyone experiences God differently. Some more intuned than others but if you are paying attention and being mindful, you will realize that He is ever present. There are those subtle moments that you will find this connection.

As such, it is impossible to impose one’s faith and beliefs on others because this relationship between you and the Almighty is just that profound and personal.

Here is my most recent experience that I would like to share.

Some of you on facebook may have noticed that for the past 8 years, I have been living a so called “high flying life”. Though I have been constantly reminding myself to be grounded knowing that everything that is good will come to and end, there were times that I lost myself in certain situations because I was doing well and the ego got the best of me. Nonetheless, I enjoyed all the travels and accolades. I have achieved a lot and I didn’t want it to end.

And then life got a little comfortable and complacent.

Out of nowhere, the world that I have built around my career crumbled like how I would have not hoped for but know can be possible.

I thought it was time for a change. I wanted to get back onto the cockpit of my life and regain control.

Around this time last year, I left the new job I thought was a good fit and my life was back in shambles. I have hoped for an Easter that marks a great victory.

Easter 2019 came and gone, no job in sight.

“He had put down the mighty from their thrones, and exalted the lowly” ~ Luke 1:52

I do not believe in a God that punishes because it contradicts Himself of being a loving God if He did.

He is a God who moulds and keeps strengthening us through seeking answers to questions and solutions to problems.

Then, people rallied around me and after a few months, I was back in my previous company with a new role. It was a struggle for me because it is a deskbound job. For the last 8 years my mind has conditioned my ego to believe that it is prestigious to be traveling around the world and anything less is me shortchanging myself.

I quickly learned the ropes and delivered since day one like I have always did in my previous roles. While still feeling very depressed fighting against my ego, I was able to pull myself through.

It has been 8 months since I last returned and still growing into my new role but Covid-19 has given me a new perspective in life spiritually.

There were frustrating days that I constantly ask myself why have I lost “everything” that I worked for in the past 8 years.

But now looking back, I truly understand that in situations where I have no control, God was in full control. In all of this, I realize why I am deskbound and no longer fly around for my job.

It is like God smiling at me saying, “Hey buddy, now you know why I blessed you with this job?”

He did not only kept me from harm’s way, He eliminated the risk of me traveling around the region and getting not only myself sick but also keeping those around me safe.

And I don’t mean that it is 100% that I will never get Covid-19 but as far as my faith and beliefs tell me, He has kept me safe thus far. Anything beyond that would be my own doing.

So, does it take a huge event to shake us up and make us realize what we have taken for granted in the past?

We live in a time of great distractions and disruptions.

If we ever pause just for a little while and be a little more mindful, all of us have this connection to the divine.

If I come across as babbling and sounding all “hallelujah” to you, I can totally relate and understand.

There will come a time when you too will feel this connection to the divine and have that “aha!” moment.

In His Time….

The SPEAR Leadership Method

We are currently living in a very challenging time. Most countries have declared an emergency to flatten the curve of Covid-19 and most people are staying home. We cannot really say that business is as usual. This is unprecedented and uncharted territory. I reflected how things should be for organizations. How should leaders navigate through this difficult landscape?

My mind brought me back to better times when I was working for an amazing leader.



I handed this Luke Skywalker action figure to Bossman during one of his visits and said, “I thought it will be cool that you have your own action figure”. That’s just because he likes using Star Wars analogies to describe some organizational situations. Needless to say, he likes seeing himself as Luke Skywalker. As for me, I used to be R2D2 and as of late, BB-8.

Over at dinner we spoke about leadership. I shared my experiences being under difficult managers. He spoke about insecurities and the corporate world has forgotten how fallible we are to a point that we have become very unforgiving.

He asked me, “Do you ever remember when certain things that you built did not work and I shouted or breathed (profanities) down your throat?”

I replied, “Never”.

He continued, “Instead, the approach I used was very respectful. I would say – this or that didn’t quite work and I must have missed something. Can you have a look at it and fix it please?”

I nodded.

“In that tone and approach, you felt compelled to make it work. I always believed that no one wakes up in the morning wanting to do a bad job”, he said.

And out of no where, he said, “Think of SPEAR”.

Selection, Purpose, Enablement, Authority, Recognition.

Selection:
Picking the right people for the job and trusting them (fully) to get the job done.

Purpose:
Whenever needed give directions – what is the end game. Clear and achievable deliverables.

Enablement:
Give those you lead the tools, knowledge, and skills they need to excel in their job.

Authority:
Empower those you lead. Give them the authority to make decisions that they think and feel will get them to the goals.

Recognition:
Always giving credit where credit is due. Reward them for a job well done.

Bossman always believe in respecting everyone as unique individuals and when we all first started working for him, he took time to learn how best to interact with each of us and made it very clear how he like us working with him. That was the first thing he established with the team.

The world is filled with many incompetent “leaders and managers” who does not know better. Perhaps it was how they were “brought up” while climbing the corporate ladder. Their managers were cruel to them and they too become cruel managers. For some, it could be climbing the corporate ladder too fast without acquiring the skills needed to lead or manage.

It is always nice to have bossman visit every once in a while and pick his brain.

Two hours dinner and I learned about SPEAR…