“Maturity is the capacity to endure uncertainty” ~ John Finley
How are you?
This is the question we often ask whenever we meet someone – be it someone new or a known acquaintance. Over dinner yesterday, a friend shared his dislike over the common response he receives whenever he asked this question and I share his sentiments as well. We often found the responses to be very blend and dull – “I am busy”. This begs the question why are we centered around “a job” that requires us to be busy all the time?
Is that all there is to life? And are we all defined by our jobs?
What happened to “we’re great and we have just returned from vacation” or “I’m feeling inspired after reading this wonderful book by so and so”?
Must it always be a close ended response? It is almost like the person is disinterested in continuing the conversation – “Please do not bother me, I am busy”.
Giving much thoughts into it, I realized that it could be the result of a mundane, monotonous, routine, and boring life. But there are always two sides to the story.
Are we afraid to venture out of our comfort zone or we are not presented with the opportunities? Or are we too comfortable to even seek out new opportunities for ourselves?
Not until recently, I have had the courage to try new things. Fears of the unknown still lingers but I try to convince myself of the new experiences that I will gain when the unknown is conquered and understood. I am also fortunate enough to have known and work with people with good critical thinking. I must say that I have been learning this trait whenever possible. In effect to that, I am always asking myself “What would Frankie do?” or “What would Phillip do?”.
And ultimately, “What would Jesus do?”
Our actions seemed to be defined by our memories – the experiences that caused joy, pain, and everything in between. Past experiences help us reason, perceive, and most of the time assume the outcome of certain actions. We tend to shun the unknowns because we do not yet have the experiences to address them.
“Be Not Afraid” was one of St. John Paul II’s theme when he was alive. It shows that he knew very well the struggles of the people in the world moving forward in complicated times filled with uncertainties.
But if we do not embrace the unknown and seek to understand it, how are we to gain clarity, grow, and progress?
I guess the real question is, how can we gain enough strength to tell ourselves that it is perfectly fine to make mistakes and learn from them. It is through trying different methods to find the solutions to life’s problems that we have progressed throughout the history of humanity.
Think about the inventors like Einstein and Edison. In their time and with limited knowledge, they were able to create new things. They must have been very bold to venture into uncharted waters. What has happened to the same courage and boldness now that we’re in the 21st century filled with information at our fingertips?
St. John Vianney puts it very simply that we just have to let go and trust. On that note, I leave you with one of his famous quotes…
“In your work, offer your difficulties and troubles quite simply to God…and you will find that His blessing will rest upon you and on all you do.” ~ St. John Vianney